I dont know why they do that but I do know that saving your virginity for marriage is the smart thing to do and It will pay you and your spouse back with happiness for doing it. References :
I don’t have a problem with virginity. I do have a problem with people who flaunt the issue. So you’re saving yourself for marriage, big f/n deal. Get over yourself. References :
I think the reason is that it’s very rare these days and many people don’t see a rational reason for waiting. For example, they might argue that AIDS, STIs and unwanted pregnancies happen to people who are married as well. The disease transmission can only be avoided if both in the couple are virgins.
I think most people believe there is no logical reason to wait. For the same reason there is no logical reason to wait until marriage for other activities you might enjoy such as shopping, playing tennis, etc.
Many people now believe folks put too much emphasis on sex. A thousand years ago, sex had a instinctively higher importance in society because growing one’s clan was so important and procreation was very mysterious and a bit mysticals. People didn’t really understand how the magic of pregnancy and child-birth.
These days, people know how to prevent pregnancy and the intensity of the magic relative to centuries ago is decreased.
So, there is a more relaxed attitude about it. As a result, many people appear to be looking down on the chaste because they associate waiting for marriage with being backward in thinking.
Not saying I necessarily agree. I’m just trying to explain what you’ve observed. I don’t think jealousy enters into it. People equate staying virgin kind of like someone who refuses chocolate even though they aren’t fat. No good reason to not enjoy.
Actually I am one, its not that big of a deal and not many people are shocked, or putting me down because of it. The only time i did get told stuff about it was during high school from my football team mates, besides that once in college i found some others like me and I hang out with them. References :
It’s usually because those people are acting stuck-up, holier-than-thou to those who decide to engage in premarital sex. Very rarely does someone say "I’m saving my self for marriage" ane mean that they don’t want STIs or to get pregnant. It means that they believe that "virginity" is a "gift" to a husband (almost always) and that those who don’t wait are sinners. They do this not because they are not in love, or respect their bodies, but because a higher power "commands" it (even though people were married by the time they hit puberty in the first century CE and we’ve elongated adolescence and put off marriage).
Others also say that "saving" yourself this way may cause problems, as you are not sexually experienced (leading to potential sexual frustration or despair if you and your partner are not sexually compatible), or to a sense of feeling dominated, that sex is something to be "owned" and not shared.
Some just think it’s not cool to be like your peers– I got taunted for not drinking, driving around aimlessly or liking the worst popular music of the day in high school. They teased me because I was different and because I was violating the idea of the social norm.
Some people are certainly jealous, because they regret their first (or subsequent) sexual partners, and would like to try again, at least in a more natural, loving, and safe relationship.
So there are bunches of reasons. The only thing I would say is make your sex choice YOURS, not your God’s, not your parents’, not your boyfriends’, not your classmates’. Abstaining (or masturbation) is safe sex– no pregnancies; no diseases; no emotional complications that come with sex. You control your body–you do what you want! THAT is empowerment.! References :
Stop being vain. No one’s thinking about your virginity status.
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I dont know why they do that but I do know that saving your virginity for marriage is the smart thing to do and It will pay you and your spouse back with happiness for doing it.
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I don’t have a problem with virginity. I do have a problem with people who flaunt the issue. So you’re saving yourself for marriage, big f/n deal. Get over yourself.
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the only problem i have with them is when they try and force their ideas upon me…
they can save themselves if they want…but they should also respect other people’s beliefs
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I think the reason is that it’s very rare these days and many people don’t see a rational reason for waiting. For example, they might argue that AIDS, STIs and unwanted pregnancies happen to people who are married as well. The disease transmission can only be avoided if both in the couple are virgins.
I think most people believe there is no logical reason to wait. For the same reason there is no logical reason to wait until marriage for other activities you might enjoy such as shopping, playing tennis, etc.
Many people now believe folks put too much emphasis on sex. A thousand years ago, sex had a instinctively higher importance in society because growing one’s clan was so important and procreation was very mysterious and a bit mysticals. People didn’t really understand how the magic of pregnancy and child-birth.
These days, people know how to prevent pregnancy and the intensity of the magic relative to centuries ago is decreased.
So, there is a more relaxed attitude about it. As a result, many people appear to be looking down on the chaste because they associate waiting for marriage with being backward in thinking.
Not saying I necessarily agree. I’m just trying to explain what you’ve observed. I don’t think jealousy enters into it. People equate staying virgin kind of like someone who refuses chocolate even though they aren’t fat. No good reason to not enjoy.
Hope that helps.
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Actually I am one, its not that big of a deal and not many people are shocked, or putting me down because of it. The only time i did get told stuff about it was during high school from my football team mates, besides that once in college i found some others like me and I hang out with them.
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It’s usually because those people are acting stuck-up, holier-than-thou to those who decide to engage in premarital sex. Very rarely does someone say "I’m saving my self for marriage" ane mean that they don’t want STIs or to get pregnant. It means that they believe that "virginity" is a "gift" to a husband (almost always) and that those who don’t wait are sinners. They do this not because they are not in love, or respect their bodies, but because a higher power "commands" it (even though people were married by the time they hit puberty in the first century CE and we’ve elongated adolescence and put off marriage).
Others also say that "saving" yourself this way may cause problems, as you are not sexually experienced (leading to potential sexual frustration or despair if you and your partner are not sexually compatible), or to a sense of feeling dominated, that sex is something to be "owned" and not shared.
Some just think it’s not cool to be like your peers– I got taunted for not drinking, driving around aimlessly or liking the worst popular music of the day in high school. They teased me because I was different and because I was violating the idea of the social norm.
Some people are certainly jealous, because they regret their first (or subsequent) sexual partners, and would like to try again, at least in a more natural, loving, and safe relationship.
So there are bunches of reasons. The only thing I would say is make your sex choice YOURS, not your God’s, not your parents’, not your boyfriends’, not your classmates’. Abstaining (or masturbation) is safe sex– no pregnancies; no diseases; no emotional complications that come with sex. You control your body–you do what you want! THAT is empowerment.!
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